Our daughter came home two years ago, at 11 months old. In that time, we moved in with my parents while we built a new house, then moved into that house, and, now, it looks like we will have to move again for a new job.
Bonding with Your Baby After Adoption
Expert advice for parents on child care and bonding with their baby after adoption, as well as stories from adoptive parents who have been there.
After two bumpy years, we finally got my daughter, now five, to sleep through the night. But she’s recently had a slew of sleep problems: night wakings, anxiety at bedtime, and so on. Is this because of adoption? What can we do? We are exhausted!
A mother shares the "new, unexpected, and amazing" attributes of her adopted son, of which no one talked about at the start of their adoption journey.
Dressing, feeding, burping, tickling, tucking into bed — the nuts and bolts of baby care bring the moments that can draw you together.
The intense motherly love that washed over me after Jack's adoption was a shock to everyone — especially me.
My daughter brings stuff up at bedtime. Most five-year-olds do; they don’t want to be left alone to sleep. She likes when I tell her stories in the dark and rub her back. Who wouldn’t like all that? Aside: bedtime can—if I let it—take forever.
View the replay of a webinar with Nicole Mayer, RMA, RN, BSN to learn about baby care basics and hear answers to commonly asked questions from new parents.
All parents long for a peaceful bedtime routine: Read your child a story, kiss her goodnight, and don't see her again until morning. If you understand how children learn to sleep all night, you can help your child manage her sleep and security needs, as you promote her attachment to you.
“Your baby is coming!” Our daughter’s birth mom, Brooke, had finally gone into labor, almost two weeks late. The call came at 3:30 A.M., and we were out the door by 4 A.M. The toy dangling from the empty car seat rattled like a ticking clock as we drove along the highway for two long hours.
Our first foster placements were a two-year-old girl and her baby brother. Their last placement had disrupted due to her primal fits. As a child therapist, I dealt with children all day, sometimes for an hour at a time. I told my husband we could handle it. I’ll get back to that later.
My first Mother’s Day took me from Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, to Chicago. It was the day I was baptized into motherhood.
So Tiana moved into our bed. As time went on, she began to awaken, startled, reaching her little hand toward my side of the big bed. As soon as she felt me beside her, she would fall back asleep. By her third or fourth month home, Tiana was waking up every 10 minutes to make sure I was beside her. Her panic was palpable.
I think I finally get it. This, what I feel now, is what being a mummy is supposed to feel like. I had wondered if I would immediately fall in love with my child; I thought I would be certain that he was “the one.” But I didn’t.
In our newly created transracial family, my husband’s and son’s matching blue hats was a tangible link. Something that said: We belong together.
At 10, Julia is fully attached to my husband and me. We are a solid forever family, the three of us. But our daughter is still reticent about investing passion elsewhere. There are no posters of Justin Bieber in her room. There is no friend from school she calls her BFF. Not one thing that really, really matters.
Why do some newly adopted toddlers reject one parent? Our expert has answers, and ways to cope.
We are planning to adopt a newborn, but know nothing about babies. Help!
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I had expected to form an attachment slowly, but I was instantly smitten with my daughter. She was the one who came around in her own time.