TABLE OF CONTENTS
Readers Share: Why We Chose Adoption
Readers Share: Why We Chose ART
Many prospective parents wonder when they will know it’s the right time to stop trying for a biological child and begin the adoption process. This advice can help.
Moms and dads describe the sometimes difficult journey to the family they were meant to have.
Should you pursue adoption to build your family? Look through these overviews of the three main routes, including cost and requirements, to get a preliminary idea of how to adopt and determine the right adoption route for you.
A general overview of the adoption process: how long it take, what you need to do at each step, and when you’ll incur expenses.
Answers to the most frequently asked questions about the cost of adoption.
Adoption Routes in Depth – Guidelines, Cost, Professionals, and More
My attachment is so fierce it takes my breath away | BY JUDY RADAR
Don’t be surprised if your mate resists adoption, even as you are embracing it. | BY JILL SMOLOWE
Before my adoption, I worried I couldn’t love a child who didn’t look like me. Now, my transracial family feels exactly right. | BY JANA WOLFF
Before starting the adoption process, many prospective parents worry about birth family contact. Read up on the basics of open adoption to ease your fears.
Wondering what a home study is? You’re not the only one. Here, find answers to your most frequently asked questions about preparing for and enduring your home study.
While the home study process may seem invasive, remember that the goal is to make sure children are placed in homes where they’ll be loved and protected. | BY LUCIA MOSES
Do I need to be Martha Stewart to pass my home study? | BY JEANNE MARIE LASKAS
*DOWNLOADABLE WORKSHEETS: The How-to-Adopt Planner
Tools and worksheets to lead you through the process, from choosing your route to budgeting to interviewing and hiring an adoption attorney or signing on with an agency.
Adoptive parents share the best adoption advice they would give themselves if they could go back five years, whether that would take them back to the adoption process or the early days of parenting.
Adoption in the United States has undergone a seismic shift in the last 40 years. How long will it take for popular perceptions to catch up with the new, healthier reality? | BY ELIZA NEWLIN CARNEY
Thousands of newborns are placed each year through independent adoption. You’ll need an experienced attorney to guide your way. | BY MARK T. MCDERMOTT, J.D.
An adoption lawyer advises on deciding between independent and agency adoption, and on hiring the right professionals. | BY JANNA J. ANNEST, J.D.
After we placed an advertisement with our adoption profile, the phone started ringing off the hook. Here’s what I learned from speaking with expectant mothers. | BY BARBARA HEREL
For prospective adoptive parents, the first meeting with a potential expectant mother can be anxiety-inducing. Being prepared can help calm those jitters. Use these tips for what to ask, and subjects to avoid. | BY CHRISTINE ADAMEC
104,000 children in the U.S. foster-care system are waiting for permanent homes. Could you be the perfect parent to one of them? | BY KATHY LEDESMA, MSW
The foster care adoption process can be difficult for parents to understand. Two legal experts break it down, step-by-step, to help you figure out if fost/adopt is right for your family. | BY DENISE M. BIERLY, ESQ., AND BOBBIE L. RABUCK, ESQ.
The emotional risks were daunting. But foster adoption was still the best option for me. | BY ROSEMARY SHULMAN
Seventeen of us crowded into the court as witnesses to my nephew’s finalization, bringing an end to 10 years spent in foster care—10 years of waiting for this day. | BY ELLYN GELMAN
Every year, thousands of Americans adopt a child from another part of the world. | BY SUSAN FREIVALDS
ART Options at a Glance
ART Cost Breakdowns
A surrogate can decide to keep the baby? Egg donors are only in it for the money? Read on for the realities that disprove these and other myths.
You’ve spent endless energy and dollars in your longing to create a family without success. What’s next, you wonder: Do I have to give up my dream?
An attorney explains what laws apply when you build your family through assisted reproduction. | BY PETER J. WIERNICKI, ESQ.
*DOWNLOADABLE WORKSHEETS: Navigating ART
Tools and worksheets to lead you through the process, from choosing your route to budgeting to interviewing and hiring an ART attorney or signing on with a clinic or program.
Egg donation allows women without viable oocytes (eggs before maturation) to experience pregnancy and childbirth. Here’s what you should know.
Embryo donation allows parents to carry a pregnancy and give birth to a child who will be theirs, though genetically unrelated. Here’s what you should know.
Men are often shocked, and even ashamed, when they learn they will need to use a donor due to male infertility. They needn’t be. | BY MARGARET J. VEREB, M.D.
Intended parents share in a gestational carrier’s pregnancy closely, and may be able to have a child genetically related to both parents.
What can intended parents ask for and what are the boundaries of the relationship with the woman who will be carrying your baby for nine months? | BY MERYL B. ROSENBERG, ESQ.
The rise of nontraditional families — from LGBT to multiracial to donor-assisted conceptions — led this father to a new definition of “family.” | BY NELSON HANDEL
Thank You to the Guide’s Sponsors:
The Academy of Adoption and Assisted Reproduction Attorneys
Dr. Jane Aronson
Building Arizona Families
Building Blocks Adoption Service, Inc.
Children’s Hospital at Montefiore – The Adoption Program
EVOLVE Adoption & Family Services
Jennifer Fairfax, Family Formation Law Offices
IAC Center: The Infertility and Adoption Counseling Center