Personal Stories and Advice for Adoptive Parents from Adoptees


Adult adoptees share their perspectives, stories about growing up adopted, and advice for this generation of adoptive parents raising their children.

Adoption stories from adoptees

“I Forgot to Be Scared”

“I Forgot to Be Scared”

A 13-year-old shares his adoption story.

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Songs about adoption

Listen to the Musical Beat of Love

Musicians—from folk singers to rappers—are tuning in to adoption to create deeply personal reflections and hummable melodies. These songs are what you need when words aren't enough.

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Letters to birth mothers

Letters to Birth Mothers, from Wondering Hearts

Distance doesn't eliminate a desire to communicate with the birth mothers that children imagine, as these letters demonstrate.

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This family remembers birth mothers on Mother's Day

“A Mother’s Day Not About Me”

To the birth mother of my three children through adoption, wherever you are, I say thank you for allowing me to be their "other" mommy.

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A Korean adoptee

“Inside/Outside”: The Transracial Adoptee Experience

30 years later: A special report on the Korean adoptee experience

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Microaggressions can add up over time

Responding to “Invisible” Racism

Our society has gotten to the point where most people can agree that overt racism is wrong. Few would argue that segregation or using a racial slur is acceptable. But many more subtle forms of racism persist. Here's how to combat them.

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Growing up in foster care meant moving a lot

“Hand-Me-Downs: Growing Up in Foster Care”

People kept taking us, a threesome of foster kids, into their homes. But we never stuck.

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A film about birth family search.

Q&A: Bryan and Angela Tucker of Closure

After a lifetime of wondering who? and why?, an adoptee set out to find some answers. The award-winning documentary that follows her birth family search has already sparked thousands of dialogues.

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Celebrating birth culture is important in transracial adoption

“Do Fan Dances and Tea Ceremonies Really Teach Us Anything?”

The museum view of culture and heritage ignores the realities of life as a racial minority. But there is a middle ground.

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Adoptee as a teen with her birth mother and siblings (left) and her adoptive parents (right).

Adoptees on Open Adoption: “I Have All My Pieces”

Teen and young adult adoptees who grew up in fully open adoptions talk about their relationships with their birth parents and adoptive parents and the many benefits openness has brought them.

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Adopting an older child can be rewarding

“What We Wish We Had Known” – Older Child Adoption

A mom and her daughter share lessons learned about older child adoption.

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Register for the webinar "Parenting Advice from a Transracial Adoptee" on 5/19/16

Webinar Replay: Growing Up as a Transracial Adoptee

View the replay of this webinar with Deborah H. Johnson—on growing up as a transracial adoptee and what parents today need to know about talking about race and adoption, finding role models for their children, dealing with teasing, and more.

Cover of The Hundred-Year Flood

[Book Review] The Hundred-Year Flood

This debut novel by a Korean adoptee explores love, loss, and finding yourself across the world.

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Jillian Lauren with her son, Tariku.

[BOOK EXCERPT] Everything You Ever Wanted

In this excerpt from her candid, hilarious, inspiring adoption memoir, Jillian Lauren explains how she and her husband addressed their son's trauma and special needs and turned things around for him at home and at school. Accompanying the excerpt is a Q&A with the author.

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Melissa and Maya Ludtke at the Xiaxi market in 2004, the trip that inspired Touching Home in China

Two Adoptees on Going “Home” to China, Again

After a birth country visit to China that was too much, too soon for my seven-year-old daughter, she and a friend returned on their own terms as teens. The trip helped them imagine what their lives might have been and explore their Chinese-American identities.

adoptees on adoption

Will We Live Happily Ever After? 15 Adoptees on Adoption

My experience is that families are families, period. It doesn’t matter if the people in the family share DNA. It doesn’t matter if kids have come from their mother’s bodies or not. Kids are kids, and parents are parents.

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