Living in Open Adoption


How to maintain contact with your adopted child’s birth family in open adoption, from letters and texting to phone calls and in-person visits.

author Lakshmi Iyer with her family, including twins adopted as older infants in an open adoption

“How I Met My Daughters”

“How I Met My Daughters”

I may not remember when I first knew I wanted to be a mother, but the moments leading up to and the first time I saw my daughters are indelibly etched in my memory.

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
author Brandy Stein with her twin daughters during an open adoption visit

“Letting Go After Months of Struggling to Parent”

After struggling to parent my twin daughters for ten months, I sadly realized I couldn’t provide them with the stable life I’d envisioned.

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
hands signing a post-adoption contact agreement, or PACA, outlining birth family contact in an open adoption

Parent-to-Parent: Post-Adoption Contact Agreements

Parents in open adoptions share whether they have a post-adoption contact agreement with their child's birth parents and, if so, what it includes.

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
brothers and sisters benefit from knowing about and seeing their birth siblings after adoption

Bringing Birth Siblings Into Our Children’s Stories—and Lives

The vast majority of our children have birth siblings, yet parents may wonder how to approach the topic. Adoptive parents, birth parents, and adoptees share how they talk about biological siblings, and build brother-sister bonds.

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
in a family that's built through open adoption and step-relatives, more love is more love

“More Love Is More Love”

In many families, relationships come without exact names. While adoption highlighted this truth, it was already a given in my family—and maybe in yours, too?

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
“Family Is Now” - Open Adoption and Changing Relationships

“Family Is Now”

What if my daughter doesn't choose me? What if she grows up and moves to live near her other mom—her birth mom? I think about that and I get scared. Then I think, so what if she does? I can’t worry about that; I can only parent now.

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
"We Are All Adopted," by Veronica Chenik Gilmore

“We Are All Adopted”

From my own search for my roots through adopting older children from foster care, life has taught me to treasure my children’s biological connections while knowing that we don’t have to look alike to belong together.

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
a birth mother attends her son's second birthday party and finds she feels accepted by his family

“Finding My Place in the Family”

Though society doesn’t know what to do with birth mothers, I knew I had a place with my son’s parents. At his second birthday party, I learned that I had a place with their family, too.

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
Whether you have an "open adoption" or a "closed adoption" in terms of contact, you can parent with an open heart

Parenting with an Open Heart

Whether you see your child’s birth parents frequently or have never had contact, you can still imbue your adoption and your relationship with your child with openness.

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
Growing to Love Grace's Birth Mom

“A Birthday Gift for Grace”

It wasn't until my daughter's first birthday that it hit me: I was grieving her birth mom's loss. With that realization, I was able to celebrate as she would have wanted.

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
Megan's Birthday Tree

[Book Review] Megan’s Birthday Tree

When Megan was born, her birth mother, Kendra, planted a tree in her backyard. Every year on Megan's birthday, Kendra decorates the tree and sends photos of it to Megan, in honor of their special bond.

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
Mother and daughter talking about adoption

Questions About Being “Given Up”

Our seven-year-old daughter knows her adoption story, but, lately, she's been asking a lot of questions about why she was 'given up.'

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
Setting boundaries in open adoption may be awkward, but it is necessary

Setting Boundaries in Open Adoption

In an open adoption, your child's birth parents become part of your extended family. Here are some common questions when it comes to managing those relationships.

JOIN

Join or renew now for exclusive access to this article, the full searchable Adoptive Families Adoption Parenting Library, and more.


Already a member? Log in below. [wppb-login] Need help? CLICK HERE
Newsletter

Top