Navigating Sibling Rivalry & Other Family Dynamics After Adoption


Advice and stories about navigating sibling rivalry, talking with relatives who don’t “get” adoption, and other post-adoption family dynamics.

Would adopting older children internationally out of birth order make out family less "perfect"?

“Redefining Perfect”

After giving birth to a boy and a girl, I had what other people defined as a "million dollar family." A few years later, family and friends questioned our decision to adopt two older children, out of birth order, when we had the "perfect" family.

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Adoption Experts answer your questions.

Ask AF: Feeling Left Out of a Birth Family

Our seven-year-old biological son seems to swing between feeling left out because his siblings (both adopted) have "other families" to feeling that they can't be part of our family because they have "other" families.

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behavioral expectations

Setting Appropriate Behavioral Expectations

When younger children misbehave, they may not really know that they are misbehaving, and can be easily distracted or physically moved. But by age three to five, a child should be more aware of inappropriate behavior.

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Adoption Experts answer your questions.

Ask AF: Upset About Mom’s Pregnancy

Q: We adopted our daughter from foster care at age 11. Two months ago, I found out I was pregnant. At first she was very excited, but now she huffs or changes the subject whenever it comes up. I’m sure she’s upset that she’ll have to share her room and her parents, but how can I prove that our love for her will remain the same?

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Adoption Plan

“According to Our Adoption Plan”

Adopting a third child so quickly wasn't part of our initial design. But I've learned that the best things happen when you least expect them.

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Adoptees whose parents attend an adoptive-moms support group

“All Together Now”

For 15 years and counting, my adoptive-moms group has provided a vital source of support for me — and my daughter.

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Q&A with Maggie Jones About Adult Adoptees Who Move Back to South Korea

We spoke with Maggie Jones about her NYT article on the wave of adult adoptees who are moving back to South Korea—how she came to write this piece, and the overwhelming response she's received.

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