“I recently found out that my teen is friends with his birth mother on Facebook. I feel badly that I found this out by ‘snooping,’ but I am also shocked and upset that she didn’t try to contact us or the adoption agency first. What should we do?”
Adoption Parenting Advice & First-Person Stories
Adoption experts offer parenting advice and real parents share personal stories about raising adopted children.
As parents, how can you help make sure that your child and all the students at her school feel included and supported? Educate teachers about the five As!
An adoptive parent wonders how to respond to an only child who keeps asking for a sibling. Real parents share their advice and stories.
Do you tell the teacher that your child was adopted at the start of a new school year? See parents' answers.
In their "black and white" world, how do children handle the grays of adoption?
How to survive an early fascination with the birds and the bees.
Avoid sit down lectures and look for teachable moments to get your teen to open up.
Single-parent homes are more common now, but kids still grapple with the daddy question.
The family tree project can be a particularly tricky one for kids who are adopted. Here's how one family tackled the assignment.
As preteens strive to define themselves, they must work adoption into the story.
Part of how teens form identity is by finding ways they are alike and different from their family. They may want to search for their genetic relatives to figuring out who they are and how to emotionally put pieces in place.
Teens don't tend to talk with their friends about their feelings about being adopted, being teased, or other tough topics. But if you have a healthy, trusting relationship, they'll open up to you. An adoption therapist advises on maintaining an empathic connection with your teen.
“We are adopting my sister-in-law’s teenage son after fostering him for five years. What can I say to her at family gatherings, to family who still don’t get that we’ll be his legal parents—and to my son, who hears all of this?”
The breakup of a family can be especially hard for adopted teens. Here's why.
As teen's desire more control over their lives, they want to be the decision-makers in determining contact with birth family.
Can't get your teen to talk? Rent a movie.
Help your teen adoptee overcome fear of leaving home with this advice.
Your teen will want to know more about his birth father—and his birth parents' relationship.
It's important to look for those natural, easy times when personal, tender issues can be touched upon.
Sometimes school brings tough situations, like teasing, tricky assignments, and nosy questions. When should kids handle things on their own, and when should a parent step in?